Communication and speaking sound simple but it’s the hardest thing to do. Often what we try to say or intend gets lost in translations, despite being our best intentions.
Why communication and speaking skills are important?
Speaking is one of the vital keys to communicating. It’s important not only in the professional field for building a significant personality; it has equal importance in our personal lives. I believe it’s important to be convincing, as aggression and manipulation won’t support anyone in thelong run.
The most used means of communication is either ‘oral’ or ‘written’. But one certainly doesn’t always get the chance to show that the pen is mightier than the sword. For this working on oral communication skills is very crucial to mark your personality. I have come up with the much-neededadvice for a better personality; 10 ways to enhance Communication and Speaking skills:
- Learn to Listen
A good orator is a virtuous listener. Listening is not exactly hearing, it requires a bit more concentration and understanding. Judging the situation and emotion under which you are going to speak has to be absolutely certain to you.
While you are in a job interview or talking to any professional associate, first listen to their query or statement and then come up with a reply. If you are carrying on a personal conversation, be more empathetic and try to see things from the other person’s view too.
- Body language
Non-verbal and non-written cues often reveal more than you think. A constant agitation, tapping your feet, fidgeting with your hands or phone it simply implies that you are not interested in the conversation or discussion. This shows alack of concentration and confidence, creating a terrible impression. This is an absolute NO, while you are communicating on a professional level. Try and be as much poise as you can and don’t confuse being poise with being a statue.
Use your hands while discussing or explaining anything and not for unnecessary pointing and poking. Keep your hands beside you or on the table rather than sitting with your arms crossed. This blocks the other person unconsciously. Try and make more eye contact while listening or speaking and smile at times (smiling is not like smirking or giggling, it feels pretty repulsive during a serious conversation).
- Read and watch more to know better
Everyone is not aware of everything, and that’s not a crime or fault. You need to read more to encourage yourself in the social aspects. Watching good movies can help in developing a positive gesture and attitude. The characters we visually see help us in absorbing their traits as there the relative concept of good and bad is represented evidently in movies. More you read, more knowledge you’ll gather and that will boost your confidence while speaking.
7.Frame your words properly
The major failure one faces during oral communication is incapability to choose their words and put them properly. All you need to know is practice makes a man perfect. Don’t think of what others would think of your speaking capability. Say what you feel is correct because I’m sure you know the things you need to avoid. It’s simple indecent, aggressive language means bad communication.
- Enhance your vocabulary
Have you ever fell short of words? Don’t turn speechless in an unwise manner as it creates a very bad impression. Read synonyms of the known words and try fitting them in sentences properly. Remember if you hear anything new and check its meaning. If you think hard covered dictionaries are old school, switch to e-dictionaries. What I want to say is that there is nothing better than dictionary when it comes to increasing your word stock.
Use online sites where professional help is being provided; they’ll understand you better and will provide you with proper guidance.
- Stick to any ‘one’ accent
It’s beneficial to know different languages and even better if you can speak those fluently. But the worst thing that one can ever do is incorporate one language into other. Imagine a combination of Chinese and Spanish (I think it will sound hilarious but in a wrong way). Now always remember this while speaking.
Try and communicate in a language that’s known to you as well as to the other person. Do not use bombastic words just for the sake of showing that you know more, they don’t really do much to help. If you have potential, others will certainly appreciate that.
- The proper way to speak
There is no such rules and regulation for thetongue. After all, we all live in a democracy where we have the right to say our mind and heart. What I can suggest are some tips to polish your speech:
- Speak clearly and do not fumble
- Make your statement understandable at the first go so that you don’t need to repeat. If someone asks you to state it again, speak the exact information you said before and also add a relevant example this time if possible at all
- Pronounce the words clearly and correctly
- Don’t use too much of negative words while speaking
- Don’t speak in a monotonous way. Do put emphasis while on certain words while where needed
- Do no use fillers
Don’t extend the conversation by saying unnecessary or irrelevant things. Try not deviating from the topic you are speaking on, it shows avoidance and ignorance. You can share your personal experience or an inspiring story;it activates our brain and makes the presentation more interesting.
- Be more positively interrogative
Ask questions. It’s very important to carry on with a two-way communication. It also shows that you are interested to and curious to learn more. This leaves a positive impression of yours on and people would like to talk to you further.
- Be confident, be yourself
Do not try to pretend to be a person you are not. Embrace all your qualities and be open to suggestion. Speak what you believe in and never let anyone intervene into your personal space. Say, ‘No’, when required. You can be more fluent in speaking and writing by taking professional help. This will not only increase your confidence but will also help you learn and understand more. Be positive and have a humble approach.
All these will certainly help you in enhancing your communication and speaking skill. You might come across many hurdles but keep your calm, dedication and patience to carry on properly. Always remember “Wise men speakwhen they have something to say; fools talk because they have to say something.”